My daughter was scared of dentists but loves Dr. J. She has been great with us and our choices. My daughter came in at 2 and we were even able to find solutions that didnt involve sedation or heavy work for her caveity.
About Hygienist: They are all great with kids, they dont talk down to them nor ignore them and just talk to the parents. They walk the kids through the whole process just like a good dentist does for me.